Just communicate more!” “Communication is key!” Or: “You need to work on yourself!” How often have we heard these phrases? And how often have we been told that to love someone, we must first work on ourselves and learn to love ourselves? These are phrases we’ve heard – or said – countless times. Valid intentions,… Read more »
The internet and social media are teeming with articles and posts about infidelity.“7 Truths About Cheating,” “10 Things You Don’t Know About Infidelity,” “Did They Cheat on You? Find Out Why!” “14 Signs That He/She Is Cheating on You.” From legal to social consequences, from broken hearts to tales of betrayal, extramarital affairs are one… Read more »
Emotionally focused therapy teaches that disconnection panic is triggered when we feel distanced from those we love, triggering an alarm reaction in the brain similar to physical pain. This panic is a survival mechanism ingrained in our nervous system. People react in two main ways: with impetus, trying to get closer, or with withdrawal, protecting themselves from the pain. In reality, both behaviours express the need for connection and to feel safe. To regain harmony, it is essential to acknowledge the pain, show one’s heart with sincerity and listen to the other without defences. Emotional connection is a continuous give and take that strengthens the bond. The goal is to create a safe haven where one feels welcome and loved.
The tendency to procrastinate, as well as a diagnosis of ADHD are not “evil.”
We all procrastinate something sooner or later. The question is how we feel about doing it!
Not only can conscious procrastination be good, but a soft approach to the myriad commitments of each day can even help us achieve our goals.
Christmas is an ancient holiday that celebrates the end of darkness and the return of Light. It’s a celebration that makes ALMOST everyone happy, not everyone. For some, it’s a difficult and very painful time. The darkest time of the year! People who hate Christmas may be reminiscent of the Grinch or Dickens’ old Scrooge, but they are never monsters; they are often BROKEN HEARTS.
Love is a medicine, in the literal sense of the word: for the body and for the soul, it is both a cure, remedy, and magic capable of repairing the wounds of the heart, and a poison that can make us suffer to the point of illness.
When there is love in our lives, our bodies produce substances such as oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins that make us stronger, happier, and much healthier. Conversely, when love is lacking, precisely because it is a “drug,” it can become a drug that intoxicates our organism. Even a poison that prevents us from healing, or makes us sick.
Discover the world of mythical creatures in Jorge Luis Borges’ “Manual of Fantastic Zoology.” As a therapist, learn to create a safe and accepting space for clients, trusting their emotions to help them grow. Explore how in this insightful article.
What is love? How much does it matter in our lives? How and to what extent can it change them?
The first international EFT conference “Healing Relationships in Emotionally Focused Therapy” took place in Poznań. Trainer Giulia Altera brought a moving talk on the Pursuer Softening Change Event in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
The sexual dimension in the EFT model highlights the importance of physical and emotional closeness, following the path of Harry Harlow’s studies. These studies revealed how central the need for tenderness is in deep bonds, showing that sex among primates is not just a biological act but an experience of emotional connection. Face-to-face contact becomes… Read more »