Changes in the EFT relationship often shape the expectations with which couples enter couple therapy or participate in Hold Me Tight® workshops. Dear Colleagues, As some of you know, I hold several “Hold Me Tight®” seminars1, meeting dozens of couples around the world. We spend two days together experiencing the structure (and the power!) of… Read more »
Failure in psychotherapy remains one of the least discussed and most difficult territories to navigate in contemporary clinical practice, especially when it involves models with strong empirical validation such as EFT. So, EFT Therapy Always Works Except When… From the Confessional of Our Failures Every so often, at conventions or during supervision and workshops, we… Read more »
Just communicate more!” “Communication is key!” Or: “You need to work on yourself!” How often have we heard these phrases? And how often have we been told that to love someone, we must first work on ourselves and learn to love ourselves? These are phrases we’ve heard – or said – countless times. Valid intentions,… Read more »
In this post, we explore some questions about attachment, asking ourselves: The figures of multiple attachments From “The Myth of Attachment Theory” by Heidi Keller and various studies, we know that what we define as “secure attachment” is not necessarily the same across all cultures. Keller points out that in cultures that value community and… Read more »
Alice asks the White Rabbit:“Do you love me?” He beats around the bush and then replies:“No, first you must learn to love yourself. Until you do, until you build a shield of self-love, I will not love you.” Once again, our wonderful Sue Johnson steps in to warn us:“Be careful not to fall into the… Read more »
The internet and social media are teeming with articles and posts about infidelity.“7 Truths About Cheating,” “10 Things You Don’t Know About Infidelity,” “Did They Cheat on You? Find Out Why!” “14 Signs That He/She Is Cheating on You.” From legal to social consequences, from broken hearts to tales of betrayal, extramarital affairs are one… Read more »
Where did EFT come from? What are the theoretical foundations and models that have made possible the germination and growth of such an extraordinary approach? …What if I told you that the origin of EFT is a ‘three-way tea’? Try closing your eyes and letting your imagination run wild for a moment until you see… Read more »
Laura and Matthew are a close-knit couple who, for a long time, have been looking for a child, but, trial after trial, the pregnancy is delayed. They are sad. And quite despondent. Many couples in their situation jump. They don’t: wonderfully, Laura and Matteo manage to avoid the crisis. And they hold up, just as… Read more »
…THE ONES THAT GIVE SURE ANSWERS… I was wandering around the Web. At one point, while strolling around a social media site that was created to link people in the professional sphere, I wondered what content was the most clicked on, the most viewed posts, and the ones that receive the most praise. Staying in… Read more »
The tendency to procrastinate, as well as a diagnosis of ADHD are not “evil.”
We all procrastinate something sooner or later. The question is how we feel about doing it!
Not only can conscious procrastination be good, but a soft approach to the myriad commitments of each day can even help us achieve our goals.
The amazing forest of the human soul, with the Emotionally Focused Therapy “compass”
Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it helps people-and not just couples-accept something that our world puts on the back burner, namely our need for love and secure connections.
Christmas is an ancient holiday that celebrates the end of darkness and the return of Light. It’s a celebration that makes ALMOST everyone happy, not everyone. For some, it’s a difficult and very painful time. The darkest time of the year! People who hate Christmas may be reminiscent of the Grinch or Dickens’ old Scrooge, but they are never monsters; they are often BROKEN HEARTS.
Love is a medicine, in the literal sense of the word: for the body and for the soul, it is both a cure, remedy, and magic capable of repairing the wounds of the heart, and a poison that can make us suffer to the point of illness.
When there is love in our lives, our bodies produce substances such as oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins that make us stronger, happier, and much healthier. Conversely, when love is lacking, precisely because it is a “drug,” it can become a drug that intoxicates our organism. Even a poison that prevents us from healing, or makes us sick.
The first international EFT conference “Healing Relationships in Emotionally Focused Therapy” took place in Poznań. Trainer Giulia Altera brought a moving talk on the Pursuer Softening Change Event in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
The sexual dimension in the EFT model highlights the importance of physical and emotional closeness, following the path of Harry Harlow’s studies. These studies revealed how central the need for tenderness is in deep bonds, showing that sex among primates is not just a biological act but an experience of emotional connection. Face-to-face contact becomes… Read more »