In our last post (Don’t Bleed in Front of Sharks: A Clinician’s Compass in the Storm of Stage One), we focused on the importance of building a platform of safety before diving into the choppy waters of Stage One. We saw how fundamental it is to read the couple’s “tornado” through a systemic lens and,… Read more »
Have you ever happened to feel a bit of bewilderment looking at how the language of our clinical world is changing? In the contemporary mental health landscape, we are witnessing a singular and, in many ways, alarming phenomenon: an unprecedented proliferation of acronyms, protocols, and “intervention techniques” which, while declaring themselves children of the most… Read more »
A drawing with a EFT therapy in the same room with an elephant
Abuse and Attachment? Dear colleagues, In our last post, we had the courage to enter the “room of failures,” addressing those moments when EFT couple therapy, despite its strength, fails to overcome obstacles like overly rigid patterns, deep wounds, or hope that has completely vanished. Today, we delve into an even more complex territory: those… Read more »
Beyond all superficial expectations, towards the very heart of EFT Dear colleagues, today’s post is addressed directly to you, attempting to answer all those questions that our clients’ hearts often ask us, without ever arriving at having a voice. “Why couples therapy?” “Why EFT?” And, above all else, what exactly is going to happen during… Read more »
The inability to connect securely is often due to what we in EFT call “dragons,” that is, the traumas and wounds of the past. These dragons, far from being insurmountable obstacles, are actually the keys to understanding the negative cycle in which couples get trapped. If we believe in the “other half of the apple”… Read more »
On the cover of today’s post is a drawing of a newborn sleeping in the loving arms of their father. The little one has closed eyes, and their face is serene because they know they can surrender. There’s no fear, nothing to dread, no desire to leave. It’s exactly where they long to be: safe.… Read more »
Alice asks the White Rabbit:“Do you love me?” He beats around the bush and then replies:“No, first you must learn to love yourself. Until you do, until you build a shield of self-love, I will not love you.” Once again, our wonderful Sue Johnson steps in to warn us:“Be careful not to fall into the… Read more »
This first post of 2025 is dedicated to our community of EFT therapists and to everyone who has joined this multilingual, borderless family. I write it for us, so we can keep spreading the message we’ve embraced, choosing to change the world for the better, one therapy session at a time. January is the month… Read more »
Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it helps people-and not just couples-accept something that our world puts on the back burner, namely our need for love and secure connections.
What is love? How much does it matter in our lives? How and to what extent can it change them?
The first international EFT conference “Healing Relationships in Emotionally Focused Therapy” took place in Poznań. Trainer Giulia Altera brought a moving talk on the Pursuer Softening Change Event in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
The sexual dimension in the EFT model highlights the importance of physical and emotional closeness, following the path of Harry Harlow’s studies. These studies revealed how central the need for tenderness is in deep bonds, showing that sex among primates is not just a biological act but an experience of emotional connection. Face-to-face contact becomes… Read more »