Imagine you are in a session. In front of you is a couple trapped in a dark sea of reactivity. The waves of escalation are rising, voices are overlapping, bodies are stiffening, and you—from your armchair—feel the water rising to your throat. [Hand-painted watercolor by my friend Roberta Giulia A.] Sometimes, in those exact moments,… Read more »
Changes in the EFT relationship often shape the expectations with which couples enter couple therapy or participate in Hold Me Tight® workshops. Dear Colleagues, As some of you know, I hold several “Hold Me Tight®” seminars1, meeting dozens of couples around the world. We spend two days together experiencing the structure (and the power!) of… Read more »
Abuse and Attachment? Dear colleagues, In our last post, we had the courage to enter the “room of failures,” addressing those moments when EFT couple therapy, despite its strength, fails to overcome obstacles like overly rigid patterns, deep wounds, or hope that has completely vanished. Today, we delve into an even more complex territory: those… Read more »
– Anatomy of a “Complicated” Relationship – I want to tell you about Sara and Marco. I meet them at a dinner party with friends; it’s a lovely evening and we are all relaxed, except for Sara and Marco, who instead seem to be in a bubble of tension all their own. At a certain… Read more »
The EFT Lens for Therapists and Beyond “And I don’t know why, but with you it just feels right. Yeah, with you it just feels right.” Colbie Caillat – “I Do” The chorus and verses of this song convey a sense of inevitability and harmony in the relationship, as if love were something that simply… Read more »