Every mind is a universe, with its planets, stars and black holes.

A universe that we think is finite, that we think we know, but that in reality still hides a great deal.

Our mental space is constantly expanding, just like the one we live in.

That is why anyone who works or wants to work in the field of psychology, as a future astronaut of the mind, never stops studying.

He starts with a Bachelor’s degree, then a Master’s degree, experiments with pre- and post-graduate internships, qualifies with doctorates and state exams. He continues with Master’s degrees, four-year schools of psychotherapy and compulsory CME updates.

In a training that never ends and along a troubled path of choices, not always easy. In fact, in the incredible range of possibilities, in the many variants and specialist variables – more or less as many as the stars in the firmament – getting one’s bearings is almost impossible.

Deciding to follow one ‘school of thought’ rather than another, and thus choosing to use the interpretative lens we judge best, can only be a tough decision. But if every specialisation requires commitment, it does not always provide us with the same guarantees, the same effectiveness, the same costs.

It all depends on the approach.

Today I’m going to tell you about EFT and reveal seven ‘whys’, starting with one you may already be asking yourself.

Why EFT training could be for me?

1 – Because EFT is empirically based
And tested and verified and certified.

By thirty-five years, four hundred and twenty months, one hundred and twenty-seven eighty-four days and three hundred and six thousand eight hundred and eighteen hours, by the 70-73% of couples who have gone from crisis to restored harmony and by the four outcome studies that make up the meta-analysis on EFT. This is subscribed to by 90% of couples who show significant improvements following EFT therapy.

2- Because EFT results are long-lasting

EFT is not disposable.

It does not crease over time and is weatherproof.

Results obtained with EFT last and persist beyond therapy: after two years 60% of couples maintain the progress they have made, sometimes even improving their situation.

Follow-up studies show that EFT does not just fix claudicant relationships, but creates mutually supportive bonds. A symbiosis full of possibilities.

3- Because it is practical, yet flexible

Every EFT therapist has a map to follow.

This allows him to keep the focus on the goals that are clearly marked at the end point. He knows where he needs to hold on, which traffic jams and hairpin bends he needs to overcome with greater momentum and where descents to sunny, placid beaches allow him to proceed at a more relaxed cruising speed.

He travels through change thanks to this well-trodden ‘itinerary’ that is not, however, free of unforeseen events. A single pothole can upset the road map and you have to know how to look for an alternative route.

This is why EFT teaches flexibility, not to be a slave to technicalities, to immerse oneself in the experience and to always be aware of the destination in order to be able, promptly, to rework the route. Sometimes you will have to reverse, stop for refuelling or even return to the starting point.

But if it is true that in the EFT map all roads lead to Rome, i.e. the couple, it is also true that they all lead to the goal along a different landscape. Finding what the patients like best is a work of empathy and closeness that the EFT therapist knows very well.

4- Because it is malleable

And it is malleable because it is rigorous.

To become a Certified International Therapist you have to go through the Externships, Core Skills with the video presentation, Supervisions and everything else. Then again to be mentored by the most experienced trainers certified by ICEEFT, the Canadian Institute for Excellence in Emotion Focused Therapy in Ottawa, for at least a year and a half, where experiences are highlighted and specific cases are studied. Thus EFT opens up to new solutions and becomes generalisable.

Not limiting itself to one prototype patient, it does not sectoralise with one pathology, but lends itself to different types of clients, with varying symptoms and comorbidities.

Designed to dress the patient like a tailor-made suit. Whatever his size.

5 – Because it is cutting edge

Neuroscience tells us that bottom-up techniques work better than vice versa, i.e. those that start at the top and work their way down. It is therefore always better to start building from specific and known basic elements to arrive at a customized solution, rather than breaking down a general model into its elementary bricks which, being nothing but standard, would probably not serve us very well.

EFT knows this and has always maintained that starting from one’s own experiences, from existing elements, is the winning path to understanding ourselves. Brain recalibration originates from below, from the simplest emotions, such as pain.

This is how Eft reshaped the field of psychotherapy by focusing on the power of emotional connection that leads to behavioural change, through relational change to healing.

“From the beginning I knew that the power of my argument alone would not penetrate deep enough to affect change. It hardly ever penetrates…Only when you feel a perception in your bones can you own it. Only then can you act on it and change….
It is only when therapy enlists deep emotions that it becomes a powerful force for change.”-

Irvin Yalom

6 – Because it is necessary

The EFT therapist uses very special glasses with which he recognises couples who really need therapy. There are many of them and they are there for all to see, we just aren’t all able to see them. To do this we must first put on the same lenses, those of attachment, and develop the empathy that allows us to understand each other’s emotions and thus create stable connections.

EFT glasses are guaranteed, their effectiveness proven. They do not lapse into dogma and technicalities, but act at the root of the problem, which, to be solved, must first be seen.

“Until we address the fundamental need for connection and the fear of losing it, standard techniques, such as learning problem solving or communication skills, examining childhood suffering or taking breaks, are misguided and ineffective.”

Sue Johnson

7- Because it is highly satisfying

The Eft therapist considers the experience.

He does not limit himself to explanations, however arduous. He does not wallow in theory, does not argue, does not slavishly follow a single recipe, but loves practice. He enters the patient’s universe, immerses himself in his experience and gathers results. And it is in the results that he benefits, in the manifestation of changes that he is gratified.

"The couple therapist sees the changes manifest before his or her eyes. The results achieved by the individual are learnt by the therapist as he tells them to him. The changes achieved by the couple unfold concretely before the therapist's eyes. Those same people who were once distant now hold hands sitting on the same couch, no longer distant, but close and resolute".- Giulia Altera

Want to know more? Visit the EFT Training area of the website and all its subsections!

And be welcome!