Every mind is a universe, with its planets, stars and black holes. A universe that we think is finite, that we think we know, but that in reality still hides a great deal. Our mental space is constantly expanding, just like the one we live in. That is why anyone who works or wants to… Read more »

Tango e Forrò: the dances of Emotionally Focused Therapy

L’EFT ci insegna a danzare con i nostri clienti, con le coppie e gli individui che chiedono il nostro aiuto per i loro cuori infranti, per le sofferenze e per i bisogni negati.

Lo fa con le bellissime parole di Sue Johnson, e lo fa anche nella sua pratica, con la metafora della danza applicata ai conflitti, esteriori e interiori.

Attraverso cinque movimenti chiave che ricorderemo tra poco. Ma prima… un passo indietro.

Suddenly, the pain

There are times when time seems to speed up. As if clocks all over the planet have suddenly tuned to a different standard… The hours on the dials are always twenty-four, but the perception is that the days are suddenly faster. Much more hectic, chaotic, frantic… You wake up and like a gazelle (from Aldo,… Read more »

Eleven characteristics of the EFT therapist plus one.

Sometimes, it happens to me to think of the EFT therapist as a kind of extra spine, indeed a whole skeletal apparatus, which supports, sustains, protects, helps articulate, move, and so on, their clients. And which responds to a set of characteristics, “physiological” so to speak, that make its constitution a true somatotype. We can… Read more »

A postcard from “No-Hope Road”

Article written by Giulia Altera for ICEEFT newsletter n*61 – April 2024
This postcard comes from a road called “the hopeless road,” a place that, in theory, should not even exist. A land that, according to sentimental geographers, is just a myth, like lost civilizations, the child and nemesis of another myth: hope itself.
And yet here I am — come discover this road with me.


Secure attachments help identity.
The reason is so simple that once “heard” it sounds self-evident. If we know we have someone who has our back, we are less afraid to face the world. We are freer to express ourselves. Our bodies produce hormones that make us feel better: oxytocin, endorphins, serotonin.


From family to clan, from clans to village, from villages to cities, and then fast forward to metropolises and, again, to the quantum leap of the network that has reset distances, we are who we are because of the bonds we build, because of the communities we choose, build and inhabit.


The journey does not begin when we leave.
Not when we leave the house and slip into traffic.
Not even when we are on board the vehicle we have chosen to move.
The journey always starts with a “what if.”


there are certain “fuses” capable of igniting arguments. Among the ten most common, we find intimacy, tidiness and cleanliness, money, relatives, the so-called “false memory syndrome,” unsolicited advice about the other person’s activities, parenting (but also pets!), vacations, and the habit of scapegoating. Let’s discover Sue Johnson’s demon dialogues!

Far beyond “Inclusivity”

The therapeutic model that made us fall in love is like a door separating two times: YESTERDAY… “Yesterday” is the legacy of an approach rooted in human history: for millennia, everything we could not explain to ourselves was seen as the child of something supernatural, mystical – either divine or demonic – and later pathological.… Read more »

Why we should forget emotional self-diagnosis

“I came to the conclusion that the only disease I didn’t have was washerwoman’s knee.”Jerome K. Jerome In the spring of 1889, Jerome K. Jerome suspected that he was suffering from hay fever. Since he didn’t feel like standing in line in the waiting room of his attending physician, he popped into the library of… Read more »

Emotionally Focused Therapy versus Emotion Focused Therapy: the differences

How to distinguish between the two different psychotherapy approaches that share the same acronym “EFT”?
To learn the details of: Emotionally Focused Therapy versus Emotion-Focused Therapy: the differences, let’s start … yes, from the points of contact.
The acronym is the same: EFT for both, as is the Italian translation, Emotionally Focused Therapy.
The focus is the same: “emotions.”
The two models after a common beginning, however, grow following different paths.
It is unfortunate that the common beginning of these two approaches and the experiential and acronym similarities often leave therapists and patients confused and disoriented. To become aware of either approach, and thus understand their particularities and differences, let us try to get to know them better

People who hate Christmas

Christmas is an ancient holiday that celebrates the end of darkness and the return of Light. It’s a celebration that makes ALMOST everyone happy, not everyone. For some, it’s a difficult and very painful time. The darkest time of the year! People who hate Christmas may be reminiscent of the Grinch or Dickens’ old Scrooge, but they are never monsters; they are often BROKEN HEARTS.

Love is the most powerful “drug” in our universe.

Love is a medicine, in the literal sense of the word: for the body and for the soul, it is both a cure, remedy, and magic capable of repairing the wounds of the heart, and a poison that can make us suffer to the point of illness.
When there is love in our lives, our bodies produce substances such as oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins that make us stronger, happier, and much healthier. Conversely, when love is lacking, precisely because it is a “drug,” it can become a drug that intoxicates our organism. Even a poison that prevents us from healing, or makes us sick.

Fantastic patients and wonderful creatures: EFT clients

Discover the world of mythical creatures in Jorge Luis Borges’ “Manual of Fantastic Zoology.” As a therapist, learn to create a safe and accepting space for clients, trusting their emotions to help them grow. Explore how in this insightful article.

The Wisdom of Emotions

The first workshop – Milan November 4 and 5, 2023 “Emotion is the music of attachment dance. To create change in a relationship, the fastest and mostdirect way is to change its music and actively evoke the emotions that elicit caring, compassion andconnection.” So says Sue Johnson, the extraordinary person who as an author, clinical… Read more »

EFT is Growing in Brazil

From Iceeft Newsletter – Winter 2022 This year, I combined vacation and work travelling to Brazil and I wanted to share what is going on in this country that I love so much. I feel privileged to have been able to do a few days of introductory workshops on EFT in preparation for some Externships… Read more »