Sometimes, it happens to me to think of the EFT therapist as a kind of extra spine, indeed a whole skeletal apparatus, which supports, sustains, protects, helps articulate, move, and so on, their clients. And which responds to a set of characteristics, “physiological” so to speak, that make its constitution a true somatotype.

We can also call it the EFThomorph somatotype. So in the efthomorph we find all those little things — eleven to be exact — that make the EFT therapist a true EFT therapist: posture and movements, interactions and then reactions and creations that become relationships, bonds and roles, experiences, and specific skills.

Speaking of the latter, the list I am about to give you starts right at the center of gravity.

1. The EFT therapist knows what they are doing. – most of the time –

To keep super the quality standards of the application of the EFT theoretical model worldwide, in fact, after long years of studies in psychology and psychotherapy, they still do some really important training steps, the Externhsip, the Core Skills, then the supervisions, then depending on their inclinations they can devote themself to trainings in Individual or Family EFT, workshops on specific topics, many many supervisions to be always on the spot and help their clients the best, and then if they want, they also get the international certification from the Canadian ICEEFT Institute.

And it doesn’t stop!!! Keep going, because then being part of the Community is just great and allows you to continue to grow with other colleagues

2. They are connected.

    The EFT therapist is emotionally present.

    Always – or most of the time- both with the couple and the individual and in constant dual focus.

    While with one eye they are vigilant on the self to unearth blocks and any loss of attunement, the other remains wide open with the attachment lens on the relationship to read any wavering relational elements, to unearth protections and help them become flexible and effective again. They are tuned to create safety in the room and in the lives of their clients. Only then can they have a complete restorative vision. As with an orchestra that plays de-tuned, the ensemble of components can return to harmonious coexistence, in its optimal intrapsychic and interpsychic interactions, when everyone reads the score and plays it in harmony.

    The EFT therapist listens, understands, and dances with clients, couples, and families, empathetically attuning themselves to “the orchestra,” placing themselves on the same wavelength as it and connecting with its experience.

    3. They are in the here and now

      The EFT therapist is a keen observer of the here and now because the present moment is everything. their or her focus is on the intra- and interpsychic processes of the couple, the individual, and the family in the now. Sure, investigates the past in the assessment phase, but then they roots to this very instant, or welcoming the past, especially because it activates present emotions, just this, yesterday and tomorrow disappear from the radars of time but not from radar of emotions. The radars of space, on the other hand, continue to work 360 degrees such that the EFT therapist is an excellent gps navigator. They follows the map, They know where They are and know where they are headed; and they recalculates the route: if there is traffic, if the road has collapsed, if they ends up in a dead end they pulls Plan B out of the hat — which is always there even if you can’t see it. And so, with the antenna firmly erect looking for the best radio station with which to listen to the patient, if they has lost the tuning they retunes, if the audio is disturbed they listens and repairs.

      4. It goes into the dark forest.

      They seek it out, and makes that their straight path.

      The EFT therapist knows the power of pain and discomfort. They put ON to suffering. They do not smother them, do not try to stick Band-Aids where the wound hurts most, but rather let it flow. In the face of a fever-fighting infection, the EFT therapist is not the antibiotic but a whole array of white blood cells. It also helps welcome aliens by transforming it into something new.

      Sue Johnson says it loud and clear: The cure for pain is in the pain.

      5. They are collaborative

      The EFT therapist is a fan of co-working.

      They sit at the round table as the “best colleague ever” and dialogue. They don’t sit on the management board, they don’t look down, they don’t judge, and they don’t hire and fire. Above all, they are not a know-it-all.

      The EFT therapist collaborates.

      They forge a safe and, above all, open alliance with clients. They explore and ask questions with curiosity and provide some answers, too, but they love course corrections. They knows that finding the ideal setting with the patient means everything, how listening and calibrating the intervention to the other means moving from the unknown to the known, from the implicit to the explicit, and being able to turn the explicit into experiential and the experiential into relational.

      Thus, we co-regulate emotions to co-create meaning. As a temporary attachment figure to help people, we then co-create and co-regulate in effective dependency-independence.

      Forges an alliance and collaborates to set people free to grow and be the best edition of themselves – Sue Jhonson.

      “Listening means continually abandoning all expectations and giving our attention, completely and ever-newly, to what is in front of us, without really knowing what we will hear or its meaning. In the practice of our day, listening means approaching, gently, with the intention of being changed by what we hear.” -Mark Nepo

      6. Stays in manufacturing

      The EFT therapist is also a process consultant.

      They follow the assembly line of the patient’s emotions, from the first brick set up on the roller. They encourage its identification and help to express and reorganize, if necessary, the reactions that follow. They are present at the assembly, and the deepening of emotions they see as the tailwind of change helps the compass stay on course during the rest of the process, during which they reflect, validate, and reformulate in terms of attachment needs and fears. Then it explores and deepens. When the product is finished, it unpacked. By unboxing, it decodes and clarifies.

      Then they reorganize, perhaps amplify, slow down if necessary, and sometimes close, change, and reformulate. Again, from the first brick. Always welcoming

      7- They are experiential choreographer

      The EFT therapist is a sensational choreographer.

      They obviously prefer partner dances, sinuous and very flexible dances, especially when it comes to enactment, and that is the moment of change where the client tries dancing alone, or with a partner, right during the session. They know that the steps must be able to change, restructuring, if necessary, a tired and frightened choreography into a new, safe, and richly experienced interaction. they change the music, speed up, or slow down the pace so that the routine loses its importance and the partners’ defenses fade to meta-perspective (insight).

      Thus it stimulates the desire to try different dances by experiencing new intimate connections that become incredible brain, affective and behavioral changes.

      In EFT, change occurs not through the reworking of the inner emotional experience, but through the new dialogues created by this new experience.- Sue Johnson

      8. They are an impartial mom

      It’s as if we therapists are mothers of two children if they are both crying they are both our children so they both need us, maybe one though is screaming more than the other then they need me more but I keep holding the other one too…I try to figure out who is screaming constantly and that shows me the hurt, like two children hitting each other – Simona Herb

      The EFT therapist is the tireless mother of two children. As Simona Herb argues, it doesn’t matter if one cries more than the other, if they sleep or eat less, because for him, they both have the same need for care and deserve the same attention.

      In a couple seeking help, the real patient to listen to is the relationship.

      Not one, not the other, but the disconnect that scares and creates protective dances that disconnect in the attempt to connect that both are creating. And they will be seen, welcomed and listened to in their pain as two ventricles of the same heart and from a systemic perspective so that they can still coexist to pump best the blood that keeps them alive.

      9. They are super-empowered

      The EFT therapist moves with confidence.

      Their special equipment, the result of thirty-five years of research, consists of the community with which they experiment and collaborate and a set of precise tools that make him feel quite confident about what to do. The broken-in process, the past experiences, the results, the studies the tangible evidence of successes and, certainly, the mistakes as well, have made the method a school and the school a method. This makes the EFT therapist more confident toward the goals to be pursued, toward the timing and expectations, but it does not lock him into mere technicality. It helps and supports him, but at the same time stimulates him to new ways, to unearth alternative paths yet unfound. For them, knowledge is not an endpoint but a key that opens new possibilities. Faced with a stalemate, they reshuffles their cards, faced with a mistake they returns to the start without passing as a dead end.
      Like a good dancer with a sudden broken ankle and a great cook who adds a pinch of sugar to an overly salty dish, the EFT therapist corrects, changes, and restarts depending on the immersion they or she makes in the patient’s experience. Tuning in is everything. This is why video recordings of the sessions are so important: They allow an in-depth study of the situation without blocking the emotional channel in the “here and now” and allowing emotions and thoughts to mingle and rearrange themselves undisturbed. It will be the therapist, at a later stage, who will spend additional time in the session and observe some technical and systemic aspects that will help in the progress of therapy.

      10. It is human

      The EFT therapist is a kind person. And they does not have to make an effort to be so. The trick, which cannot be seen because it is not there, is simple and lies in attachment theory: by understanding and using the lens of attachment there is nothing that is incomprehensible, wrong or strange to us. We learn step by step that if things are read and put in the right frame and context, they all make a lot of sense!

      The empathy it creates with the patient turns into respect, deep, for any emotion.

      The intervention without judgment, without labels, and without the obsession with case formulation, diagnosis, pathologizing everything and anyway opens to complete acceptance.

      With EFT everything finds its meaning. If we contextualize ourselves by following the evolutionary principles of attachment theory, everything makes sense, every emotion, every reaction, every nonreaction. – Giulia Altera (EFT Trainer and President of EFT Italy)

      P.S. But of course even EFT therapists can have their bad days and be a little less kind.

      11. They are satisfied

      We are almost at the end of the characteristics of the Efthomorph somatotype is satisfaction. That’s the one, the one that makes us smile as soon as we wake up, puts us in a good mood even when we’re swamped in traffic or in the rain without an umbrella. And it has nothing to do with explanations or arguments. The EFT therapist is happy with their experiences, especially when they can reach out and understand the core of a problem through the lens of attachment or rebuild a secure connection by dancing the EFT Tango. They are satisfied even when it didn’t go quite so well because they know they are not alone and can count on the support of not just a colleague or supervisor but an entire community!

      12. They are protected from burnout

      Last but not least of the characteristics, in fact, more than a characteristic it is a protection, beautiful and effective: thanks to all these characteristics the EFT Therapist is protected from Burnout, because they are never emotionally isolated, because they know that at any time they can count on the connection of other EFT therapists because they have a solid model under “the butt” and magic lenses to understand even the things that to most remain incomprehensible, strange or even wrong or impossible.

      Don’t believe me? Come and meet us!!!

      And here so many smiling EFT Therapists!